Some might argue that romantic soulmates love each other the most, but I believe that there are two real loves in this whole wide world: the love between a mother and her child and the love between girl friends.
While most of the times romantic love is just chasing a thrill, the love between girl friends grounds deep and grows at heights that the love between a man and a woman can’t even comprehend.
This love is pure, based on compatibility and empathy. Unlike the romantic love that eventually turns into cohabitation, the loss of ‘the spark’ and a miserable ever after, this love is like the first sunny days of spring and the fresh smell after it rains. Finding the true friends can heal you and can teach you lessons that you didn’t even know you needed.
Of course, as any other kind of relationship, the female friendship isn’t perfect. But it doesn’t have to be. It is real. Compared to the romantic love where we constantly compare our relationships to the standard that we’ve seen in fictional pieces of media, the female friendship is natural. It just is. Of course, there will be arguments and confrontations, but they only help you grow. Sometimes we stumble upon someone who isn’t compatible with us, just like in romantic relationships, but that is okay. Forcing it is only going to lose time and effort. And yes, friendships take effort to bloom.
I believe that most of us women have a complex understanding of the emotional realm, and that can help us connect deeper. And who would be better to connect to than other people that know our struggle, and that motivates us to go forward every day?
You laugh harder with the ones that you can cry with.
Often, I’ve heard guys say that our friendships aren’t authentic and that we all secretly hate or envy each other. I see that sometimes that might be the case, but that usually isn’t the motive for friendship breakups. Guys tend to say that they have better friendships because most of their friendships last a lifetime. But why?
Me, my friends, and many other people on the internet had an observation. Straight men tend to know nothing about their friends. They just hang out, play games or drink some beers and talk about some superficial subject. Of course from time to time they might talk about their problems but that is once in a blue moon. And this isn’t their fault. That is the patriarchy’s fault. Teaching little boys that being emotional is less masculine and that `whining` about problems is something that only women do because they are weak.
Men don’t have such strong support systems as women because they are taught that to be masculine, they don’t need any. Deep connections are ridiculed by patriarchy, and that scars many boys. And that is what makes most of them unable to understand the dynamics of female friendships and friendships breakups. They are too complex for some of them.
This is the first moment writing this book when I rather emphasize with men instead of envying men. I know that some of them out there can rely on their friends and form deep connections. And I am truly grateful that the world is healing and men can finally experience the joys of friendship. But unfortunately, in most places, where the conservative values are still lingering, boys and men don’t have this privilege.
So here stands the female friendship, something so beloved and valued that makes life better. It brings emotional support, lots of fun, companionship, and any type of help you might need. This is a real comfort place.
I truly love my friends, and I am extremely grateful to have them. They bring whimsy into my life and make it so much better. Every time I see something beautiful, I think of them because they are the ones who make my life beautiful.
Every time I have a problem, I know they are the ones who will understand and encourage me. They know the exact sweet sport between comforting and giving advice.
I was born a woman in this horrible world, and as an apology I got my wonderful friends. They are truly the best, and this is my way of thanking them for making life bearable. If everyone had friends like mine, the world would be a better place!